When Will I Meet My Soulmate?
As a teenager, I so desperately wanted to meet my soul mate. I didn’t know that for the most part, teenage boys were only interested in one thing. Having predominantly seen harmful patriarchal relationships in childhood, I did not have healthy relationships modelled to me. At that point, the only relationship guidance I received was from Disney films and rom-coms, which I relished.
According to these films, you meet your other half and you just know right away you’re destined to be together and live happily ever after. The movies suggest you need to overcome a few hilarious and heart-wrenching hurdles first but then, from this point forward, you blissfully drift into a relationship haze, as all the world’s problems disappear. ‘Yes! That is the thing I need! A romantic relationship will solve all my problems and complete me.’ Or so I thought. I was soon to have my heart broken and become disillusioned. But alas, all was not lost.
In this blog, I am here to reassure you that fairy tales really do exist. They just need to be approached with the kind of pragmatic self-awareness and astute wisdom that make a comparatively boring rom-com but also lead to a deeply satisfying manifestation. So, let’s dive in and take a look at your soul mate.
Your soul mate is another person with whom you have agreed to rendezvous in this lifetime prior to incarnation. You are called to meet your soul mate by this previously agreed upon arrangement. Not everybody has this desire. If you do wish to meet the one, you feel this calling because your soul mate is out there, also wishing to meet you.
It is important to be honest with yourself now and question why you want to meet your other half. This helps you to be more steadfast, should you encounter obstacles and helps you honour the dreams in your heart. Is your desire a calling; a deep longing or knowing from within the depths of your being? Or is it a desperate need to fulfil a sense of lack, complete you or have somebody to make you happy? Do you really want this in your life and have you always wanted it? Or do you think you should want it because society tells you so? It is possible all of the aforementioned is at play. You manifest your ideal partner, when you can realise the purity of your desire. It is good to explore your reasons for wanting a relationship, so you can learn to back yourself and your desires.
If you have witnessed many unhealthy attachments in your younger years, you may have learned to be independent and not to rely upon others. So, I am going to tell you now, it is okay to want this! It’s perfectly natural to want a romantic partner in your life, a community around you, a family and so on. As humans, we are wired towards social behaviour (most of us anyway). It’s okay to feel you need people in your life; I just highly recommend seeking the right people for you. I give loads of tips on setting boundaries and getting clear on what you want in my book ‘Finding the One – A Practical Guide to Manifesting Your Soul Mate’.
In terms of manifestation, it is possible to magnetise the ideal person to you. But if it hasn’t happened so far, you may need to visit possible reasons for this. It may be a matter of timing. For my husband and I this was certainly the case, considering the eleven-year age gap. If you are simply waiting for the one, it might be time to do what you can to enjoy the time in-between. Why wait to enjoy yourself? Why not make your life everything you wish it to be now? You can make your life something to fall in love with even while you are single. Is there something you’ve been holding off doing because you’re waiting for your other half? Is it something you can make plans to do now?
Perhaps your soul mate has not yet come because you must hone your vision of your ideal relationship, as in, what is coming is even better than you have previously imagined. Life might be helping you by giving you examples in the form of partners who are not quite right, so you become clearer on your preferences. You may even meet somebody who seems perfect, only there is on major deal-breaker at play. These events help show you what is possible and may even work on your energy field to prepare you, such as, opening your heart to magnetise the one.
Another thing to become aware of is any beliefs operating that are at odds with your desire. Do you feel worthy? Do you believe it is possible? Are you only attracting a certain type and affirming a belief, such as, ‘all men are liars’ or ‘all women are neurotic’? It is phenomenal how the unconscious beliefs, thoughts and feelings we have can influence the way in which the world appears to us. Sometimes we have beliefs at play that are so ingrained, we are not even aware of them. This can influence the types of people we are drawn to. Humans are amazing in the cues we can attend to. We pick up on subtle nuances that people possess and demonstrate with pinpoint accuracy, whether we are aware of it or not. Pay attention because what you magnetise in others, will highlight your beliefs. If, for example, you believe you’re not good enough, you will magnetise people whose affection you need to work hard for; partners who seem aloof and don’t fully give themselves to you.
If something unwanted shows up repeatedly and each event is of a similar nature, especially if it is something you have a strong emotional response to, it might be worth looking deeper. If you can treat the world as your faithful teacher, friend and wise guide, you will gain valuable insights as to where improvements could be made. Observe your inner state carefully. As you rectify any beliefs that are hindering you, as you get clear on what you want in a relationship, you can affirm that you deserve your ideal partner and make sure you honour your desires. For a workbook, packed with exercises to raise your vibration and become aligned with your desire, click here ‘Finding the One - Soul Mate Manifestation Workbook.’
Now, to answer your question, ‘When will I meet my soulmate?’ You will meet your soul mate in divine timing. But please don’t fret! It will be perfect. Your meeting is inevitable. My biggest regret in my dating journey was that I did not recognise the inevitability of our meeting. I wasted too much time fretting over his absence, rather than nurturing myself, enjoying life and the people I had the honour of dating.
You will ready yourself now. I know you will because you are reading this blog and you have found this information. As you prepare, you will recognise that your feelings of joy and bliss come from within. You will practice tools and techniques to enter the present moment and know your completeness. When you fall in love with life, appreciate you and appreciate the beauty of the world around you, your soul mate is near. Your inner alignment and harmony within, indicate you are on the right path with your thinking. You will begin seeing signs of soul mate relationships in the world. When you see others who have what you want, you will respond with feelings of joy. There will be examples everywhere. The world will feel like a blissful romance to you and you will no longer feel a desperate need to have them in your life. When you attract a person out of this state; of deep connectedness with the oneness of the universe, you will attract a person who perfectly mirrors the joy that you are and all the desires in your heart. In this state of oneness, that which is meant for you must come to you. When you stop asking ‘When will I meet my soulmate?’ and instead know they are with you now, (the only time is now) they will come.
Much love and joy friends, as you prepare now to find the one xo
