Do You Love Being Single?

Do you love being single? Loving being single means feeling joyful in life, irrespective of whether you have another person in it. It doesn’t mean simply tolerating your situation and thinking, ‘Yeah, my life is pretty good but will my other half show up already!?’

Ideally, you will feel so in love with your life, exactly as it is, that you will not be entirely sure you want to invite somebody in. This puts you in a position of not wanting to compromise on how amazing your life is. You can then be selective because you’re happy as you are. Another person in your life in a romantic capacity (depending on what life stage you’re at) could potentially be a huge adjustment. You want it to be worth it. You will only want somebody really amazing, whose company you love more than being alone, to be in your space. This is powerful.   

If you don’t love being single, there is a big chance you will compromise on your needs and desires when choosing a mate. You could end up in a relationship that is toxic and harmful (once the honeymoon period has elapsed) then find yourself in the painful position of having to end yet another romantic connection. While this isn’t the greatest disaster in the world, if you’d like to finally have a meaningful connection in your life, with a person who has all the traits you’ve wished for in a partner, you would ideally find a solid position first. You would resolve to find deep satisfaction with your life, as it is, right now.

This brings up the topic of loneliness. In essence, there is no such thing as lack. Nothing is ever missing when you look beyond the world of physical forms. When you focus only upon the materialised world, you can find plenty of things that are missing. But if you have a connection with the depths of your inner being, you will never ever feel lonely. This is key to all things in life. It is like steadying yourself within the eye of the hurricane. Hurricane-eye-surfing is an artform. It takes practice but it is the surest way to navigate the tumultuous world of uncertainty that swirls around you.

This is why the yogis and all the spiritual teachers tell you, ‘Be in the Now; Be present.’ Even Jesus taught this when he said, ‘Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for things of itself.’

Now, the practice of presence is often misunderstood. There are those who think this means not conceptualising and not reflecting. You can be present and reflect on the past. You can be present and plan for the future. Your brain doesn’t suddenly stop recalling things and doesn’t become incapable of reasoning. But you keep most of your energy and attention now. Now becomes your anchor and sort of like your home base. You go out and explore a concept and then, you come back to the now, back to your default mode.

I am present, as I put together these words. Insights arise within the receptivity of my brain and they are put forward in language. I am using the brain. I am ensuring the large part of my energy is anchored within my body, while only a portion is attributed to the task of written communication. I pause on occasion and ensure internal balance. I then receive another insight and type that. I am sitting alone. I am connected to the oneness that I am. I have within me the fullness of life. There is nothing missing. Sure, in the physical world, at the present time, I could use a source of income, a place to live and warm clothes that don’t have holes in them.

But I feel so complete, fulfilled and enriched, it overflows and the desire to pour this abundance into the world is impelling. This is the fullness of life. It is found in this; the one and only moment. It is found when you become still and when you practice this often you will never feel lonely; you will never feel lack.

The practice of bringing your attention to now will bring you deep into your connectedness with the one life underpinning the entire universe. You are, in fact, already one with that. It is the power that creates worlds. It adores you all ways, always. But if you have your eyes closed and somebody gives you a gift of great beauty, you will never know what a beautiful thing you have received. You must first open your eyes to appreciate this beauty.

I assure you, if you keep up with your presence practice and keep going within, little by little, you will strip away the layers that have kept you from seeing the innate gifts available to you. Keep going. Do not give up on your spiritual practice. There is nothing more deeply satisfying than to come to earth with all its grand illusions, including that of separation, and to overcome all.

Your separation is an illusion. You are never alone. Find the fullness of life deep within and then let a romantic relationship into your life from that space. This way, you only invite the person who ignites your fire as your divine source does. You will only invite a person who lights you up and expands your energy. This person will enhance your experience of life and take you to heights of joy you never imagined possible.

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