Why Complaining is Good for You
I would usually encourage people to refrain from complaining. The reason being that harbouring the energy of resistance to life is not particularly helpful and can keep you caught in a cycle of struggle and negativity. But let’s say that something isn’t working out for you. Let’s say that you are trying to be positive in a certain situation but it is undeniably stressful or not going to plan. What then? Do you just gloss over the surface and attempt to push on?
An outer verbal acknowledgement that something is not working is technically termed a ‘complaint.’ But if this is done with inner acceptance then it can be quite a powerful tool. There is nothing wrong with offering feedback or constructive criticism, if you do so from a centre of acceptance and peace. If I have purchased a product that is not fit for its intended purpose, for example, I will contact the company that made the product and let them know. I won’t do so with anger or resistance. I will just calmly offer that information, as consumer feedback is extremely important and so I am doing the company a favour.
Recognising that something is not working in your life does not have to be done with negativity; it can be done with presence and awareness. Sometimes in order to effect positive change, we need to acknowledge that something is not working.
The key here, however, is to not get caught up on the recognition phase of what isn’t working in the process of creating change. If you feel that you are obsessing over something that isn’t working, then it is a good idea to learn to let it go. Be present. Focus on your breathing for five or ten minutes, exercise, meditate and come into your body or ‘come to your senses.’
Once you have found peace or a state of inner acceptance of anything that hasn’t been working in your life, you can begin to create positive change or allow positive solutions to enter your experience.
In suggesting that ‘complaining’ is good for you, I am referring to the sober recognition of what is not working and being honest in your life and in your interactions with others. I highly recommend this because I have had so many wonderful, ingenious solutions to ‘problems’ offered to me through opening up to other people. You can have challenges in your life and talk about them without offering up negative emotions and resistance.
I have a friend who has been regularly checking in with me about my business to see how it is going. I have been honest every step of the way. Things have been going great in terms of productivity and the amount of content I have produced. My online course is on the way to being completed and I’ve nearly finished editing my book ‘Finding the One- a Practical Guide to Manifesting Your Soul Mate.’
But I have been experiencing challenges with recording my guided meditation resources. I have had difficulty finding the right space to record from and I do not yet have the funds available to hire a recording studio. I told this to my friend. This was not offered as a complaint. It was not offered with any negative energy or resistance to what is. It was just simply a statement of; ‘this is the experience I have been having with my business.’
My friend happened to know of a recording studio that is available at no cost in my local town. Through my being honest with him and sharing the actual challenges that I have faced; a solution was found. I am very excited and have booked into the studio within twenty-four hours of learning of its existence!
It has happened for me so many times that I have found solutions to challenges through sharing with other people; friends and acquaintances within my community.
I don’t recommend harbouring perpetual negativity and resistance to ‘what is.’ But there is certainly some value in acknowledging if something is not working out for you and you would like to create change. But once you have acknowledged that you would like to move on from or find a solution to a situation, don’t waste your energy raging against it or offering negativity towards it.
And keep this in mind; it is okay to be honest about a challenge that you face and it is okay to talk about it. It is okay to provide feedback about something that isn’t working. When you do so, make sure you are present and solution-focussed. Make sure you accept the current situation inwardly, that is, that you have an energy that is allowing ‘what is.’ Offer no inner resistance, be present and then address the challenge, problem or complaint. If you would like some help to be present and to face life’s challenges, please send me a message at Soul Connect.
